Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Love at First Sight (continues0

This week I've listed love at first sight in medieval times. Next positing will be modern time, and then my opinion of all. I hope you enjoy the articles.


Definition taken from

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia



Medieval, Renaissance and Baroque[edit]

The classical conception of love's arrows were elaborated upon by the Proven├žal troubadour poets of southern France in the eleventh and twelfth centuries and became part of the European courtly love tradition. In particular, a glimpse of the woman's eyes was said to be the source of the love dart:
This doctrine of the immediate visual perception of one's lady as a prerequisite to the birth of love originated among the "beaux esprits" de Provence. [...] According to this description, love originates upon the eyes of the lady when encountered by those of her future lover. The love thus generated is conveyed on bright beams of light from her eyes to his, through which it passes to take up its abode in his heart.[6]
In some medieval texts, the gaze of a beautiful woman is compared to the sight of a basilisk.[citation needed]
Boccaccio provides one of the most memorable examples in his Il Filostrato, where he mixes the tradition of love at first sight, the eye's darts, and the metaphor of Cupid's arrow:[7] "Nor did he (Troilus) who was so wise shortly before... perceive that Love with his darts dwelt within the rays of those lovely eyes... nor notice the arrow that sped to his heart."[8]
Shakespeare pays a handsome (posthumous) tribute to Marlowe by citing him in As You Like It: 'Dead shepherd, now I find thy saw of might: "Who ever lov'd that lov'd not at first sight?"'.[9]
These images of the lover's eyes, the arrows, and the ravages of "love at first sight" continued to be circulated and elaborated upon in the Renaissance and Baroque literature, and play an important role in Western fiction and especially the novel, according to Jean Rousset.[10]

Friday, April 11, 2014


Several years ago, when I first started out writing and going for publication, I asked J.R. Ward, who was speaking at a class I was attending, "Who do you listen to?" And her answer was something like this, "Well, that's the thing, isn't it? You listen to people and the more you write and the more you get secure with your writing the more you begin to understand the process. And the experience teaches you who to trust and who not to."

Today from where I sit, I see the wisdom of such an answer. At that time, I was struggling with contest judges and agent talks as well as advice from other well-meaning authors. 

Here are some myths I was told (circe 2010):

1.   As a debut author you must strip out most the humor in your work. 
2.   Write as dark and gritty as you can.
3.   More sex the better in romance.
4.   Don't Indie Publish or it will mess up ever having a chance at a real career as a writer for one of the Big 6 houses.
5.   Don't try to write something outside the norm, or outside what your agent thinks is sellling.
6.   Vampires are dead.
7.   There are so many writers writing SEAL stories, don't bother.  
8.   Contemporary romance is dead unless you combine it with some paranormal or steam punk.
9.   Indie publishing will be a fad that will go out as fast as it entered the stream.
10. The jury is out on ebooks. They may not make it. However, printed books are always going to                outsell electronic books.
11. All the successful authors will be agented/contracted authors from big houses.
12. Indie books will never "stack up" when compared to the big publishing houses.
13. You cannot write in several different genres and use the same pen name.

There are a lot of hybrid authors out there today. I am not one of them, so I cannot speak to this trend, except to say I don't have a previously published backlist like many authors today. If I did, then I would also be a hybrid author.

I started off by entering something like 30 contests the first 18 months of my writing career. And I turned out at least 2 books per year, trying different genres, hoping one would take off and be my "vein of gold." I took about 50 online craft classes, often taking 2-3 at the same time (and yes getting the assignments mixed up occasionally). I finaled in several of these contests, which gave me confidence. In other cases, I took the suggested changes from the judges and incorporated them into my WIP, only to be shot down by other contest judges for the very items I'd added.

So what has worked for me? 

1.  Listening to my own voice and the story I wanted to tell, the way I wanted to tell it.
2.  Have lots of beta readers and critique partners (not all from the same genre or even romance).
3.  Never hesitate to take a refresher class on some kind of writing craft.
4.  Always be reading in your genre.
5.  Always be reading a craft book (I like my craft books in paper because I like to scan for answers).
6.  Sales are cyclical. Trends are fickle. Price and buying links in the back of the book are almost as            important as content.
7.  Don't base your opinion of yourself as a writer on reviews.
8.  Always be willing to help another writer coming up through the ranks.
9.  Working with other authors on boxed sets brings in more readers/fans for my books.
10. Ask more questions than give advice.

I hope some of these suggestions will be useful to some of you. For you readers, it gives you some insight into what it takes to be a writer and what it takes to run a writing business. If you have a question, please don't hesitate to ask it here. I'll do my best not to steer you wrong.

NYT and USA/Today and top 100 Amazon bestselling author Sharon Hamilton’s award-winning Navy SEAL Brotherhood series have been fan favorites since they were first released. They’ve earned her the coveted Amazon author ranking of #1 in Romantic Suspense, Military Romance and Contemporary Romance, as well as Gothic Romance for her Vampires of Tuscany and guardian angels. Her characters follow a sometimes rocky road to redemption through passion and true love. 

Her Golden Vampires of Tuscany are not like any vamps you’ve read about before, since they don’t go to ground and can walk around in the full light of the sun.

Her Guardian Angels struggle with the human charges they are sent to save, often escaping their vanilla world of Heaven for the brief human one. You won’t find any of these beings in any Sunday school class.

She lives in Sonoma County, California with her husband, and two Dobermans. A lifelong organic gardener, when she’s not writing, she’s getting vera vera dirty in the mud, or wandering Farmer’s Markets looking for new Heirloom varieties of vegetables and flowers.

Sharon Hamilton
Life is one fool thing after another.
Love is two fool things after each other.

Monday, April 7, 2014

Do You Believe in Love at First Sight?

I do. The first time I met my husband I went home an told my mother she was right. Bells and Whistles really did go off. When he smiled at me I went all gooey.

Love or Lust? You tell me, we're going on thirty-five years of marriage.

This week I'm going to go with the Greeks version of Love at First Sight. The following weeks I'm going to explore Love at First Sight through different cultures.

(From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia)
 Love at first sight is a common trope in Western literature, in which a person, character, or speaker feels romantic attraction for a stranger on the first sight of them. Described by poets and critics from the Greek world on, it has become one of the most powerful tropes in Western fiction.

I find reading about this subject fascinating. I think it also helps us as authors nail that special, hot love scene. Isn't writing a study in human nature?


In the classical world, the phenomenon of "love at first sight" was understood within the context of a more general conception of passionate love, a kind of madness or, as the Greeks put it, theia mania ("madness from the gods").[1] This love passion was described through an elaborate metaphoric and mythological psychological schema involving "love's arrows" or "love darts," the source of which was often given as the mythological Eros or Cupid,[2] sometimes by other mythological deities (such as Rumor[3]). At times, the source of the arrows was said to be the image of the beautiful love object itself. If these arrows arrived at the lover's eyes, they would then travel to and 'pierce' his or her heart, overwhelming them with desire and longing (love sickness). The image of the "arrow's wound" was sometimes used to create oxymorons and rhetorical antithesis.
"Love at first sight" was explained as a sudden and immediate beguiling of the lover through the action of these processes, and is illustrated in numerous Greek and Roman works. In Ovid's Metamorphoses, Narcissus becomes immediately spellbound and charmed by his own (unbeknownst to him) image. In Achilles Tatius's Leucippe and Clitophon, the lover Clitophon thus describes his own experience of the phenomenon: "As soon as I had seen her, I was lost. For Beauty's wound is sharper than any weapon's, and it runs through the eyes down to the soul. It is through the eye that love's wound passes, and I now became a prey to a host of emotions..."[4] "Love at first sight" was not, however, the only mode of entering into passionate love in classical texts; at times the passion could occur after the initial meeting or could precede the first glimpse.
Another classical interpretation of the phenomenon of "love at first sight" is found in Plato's Symposium in Aristophanes' description of the separation of primitive double-creatures into modern men and women and their subsequent search for their missing half: "... when [a lover] ... is fortunate enough to meet his other half, they are both so intoxicated with affection, with friendship, and with love, that they cannot bear to let each other out of sight for a single instant."[5]

I'd love to know your thoughts on the subject and get a conversation going.